Posarc reviews a favorite book: “Getting Off- Pornography and the End of Masculinity” by Dr.Robert Jensen

Getting Off: Pornography and the End of Masculinity

By Robert Jensen, Ph.D.

Note: parts of this review are graphic and may trigger PoSAs (Partners of Sex Addicts).

Undoubtedly, Getting Offis the best single volume written about the entire topic of pornography. Porn is rightly portrayed as an extension and tool of the prevailing patriarchy; its hidden purpose, its use; its vile creation and its effects upon the porn user and those around him. Jensen pulls no punches in telling the whole story of the porn industry and its marketing aims.
Note:	This reviewer makes a Jungian delineation between male and masculine and between female and feminine. Each gender has both feminine and masculine aspects regardless of the apparent gender. Female is not always feminine (to wit: Margaret Thatcher) and male is not always masculine. Some of the most egregious patriarchs come housed in female bodies.
Nonetheless, we live in a patriarchy and women suffer directly and in distinct ways. Men suffer as well, but the damage is more subtle and not the point of this review.

So Why Would a PoSA Read Yet Another Book on Pornography?

Boycott Groupon!

Groupon Promotes Sex Tourism and the Normalization of Porn

PornHarms.com has an initiative to boycott Groupon and we at PoSARC fully support that effort. If you have never been a clicktivist, this might be a good place to begin. Clicktivism is signing an online petition to register your position. And it is effective. We at PoSARC are asking you to both sign this petition and boycott Groupon until they change their existing policies.

PoSARC Presents…

We were invited, and now you’re invited by Porn Harms, the nation’s largest anti-pornography resource.

Lili and Terre will be presenting about Posarc and the many ways a partner’s use of porn harms us.

You’ll have a chance to ask us your pressing questions and chat with other participants. We’re going to share our deeply personal experiences and process.

If porn has invaded your relationship or you would like more information,  please join us on Tuesday, April 17^th, 3:00 EDT for a live event via Facebook (you can view anonymously without logging in but you must log in to participate in the chat or ask questions).

http://on.fb.me/qbIz7j

We’re excited to meet you all!

The Big Benefits to Porn Users Who Gave it Up

The Big Benefits to Porn Users Who Gave it Up

Results from Informal Groups Tell the (Inspiring)
Truth by Lili Bee 4-6-12

I have been in ongoing talks with two friends, both medical doctors, both of whom have been adversely affected by pornography. One doctor is a recovering porn addict, the other is the spouse of an addict.

We talk, these two doctors and I, about the effects of porn use, and especially the current medical procedures for treating patients presenting with the effects of porn usage.

How Porn Hurts Us: Introducing Nine Deuce

How Porn Hurts Us
by Lili Bee

Have you ever struggled to convey how deeply porn use disturbs you without tripping over your words? Without stammering? What about when the points you want to make about it reflect very strong beliefs you hold, but the person you’re conversing with not only doesn’t agree, but they don’t even seem to care?

Anticipating just such trouble ahead, have you ever rehearsed your points beforehand so you can confront someone later, only to have your anger get the better of you and instead your husband (or partner) dismisses your concerns?

Our New PoSARC Web Site!!!

Our New PoSARC Site Is Up!!

After much preparation, the new PoSARC site is now ready to be unveiled!

Team PoSARC has been hard at work since November to update our look, content and create new features so that as we’re growing, we’re able to meet the requests that many of you have sent in.

Ask A Sex Addict in Recovery Your Questions

Q- Have your deceptions caused you to not believe others so easily?

When Talk Shows Want to Talk to Us

I got a call last week from a producer of a huge daytime talk show, hosted by a celebrity and all. They wanted to know if I had ever been on TV before because they’d like me to appear in an upcoming episode they were putting together. I got all excited and then remembered I never asked, “What’s the show going to be about?”

“Does a sex addict ever want to out his own secrets before getting caught?”

Q- Assuming that you were hiding your addiction from your wife (or partner) was there ever a time before your discovery that you felt compelled to come out with it, to tell the truth?

“An Easy Way to Be Proactive!”

Being triggered by ultra sexualized imagery everywhere is a PoSA’s commonplace nightmare. Being out with, or without your SAC (sex addict/ compulsive) when facing such ad images on billboards, sides of buses, store windows, magazine covers while in line at a store checkout, it’s enough to send us into a frenzy. And this type of imagery is only becoming more ubiquitous as seemingly everyone hops on the “porn-star imitation” bandwagon in a grab for the almighty dollar or their fifteen minutes of fame.