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The Big Benefits to Porn Users Who Gave it Up
Results from Informal Groups Tell the (Inspiring)
Truth by Lili Bee 4-6-12
I have been in ongoing talks with two friends, both medical doctors, both of whom have been adversely affected by pornography. One doctor is a recovering porn addict, the other is the spouse of an addict.
We talk, these two doctors and I, about the effects of porn use, and especially the current medical procedures for treating patients presenting with the effects of porn usage.
I responded to an article on The Good Men’s Project, written by the founder of that site, which was about how Hugh Hefner is gearing up to steamroll into the top TV-viewing slot on NBC this fall, usurping Mad Men, by unveiling his new series The Playboy Club.
I clicked on the youtube trailer for the new series and thought only, “Oh brother….here we go again” with the normalization and branding of pornography as cool, the thing to stay home and watch…
In my response to this piece about The Playboy Club, which the founder published as a featured article, I traveled back in time to when I was a Bunny myself, and recounted how the early seeds of my distaste for the effects of pornography were being sown back then.
In the week since my story was featured at Good Men Project, it was also picked up by other sites such as alternet, the hairpin (and others) where it gained popularity, as well. Read the rest of this entry »
From time to time we will be posting questions and answers from our Members at Ask-A-Sex Addict. We invite YOU to submit your questions to Ask a Sex Addict/Compulsive (SAC) in Recovery. This is a recent question put forth by a visitor.
“How does obsessive pornography behavior get started?”
Ask a Sex Addict/Compulsive (SAC) #2
I’m sure that question is answered differently from everyone. There seems to be some childhood anxiety involved. Often abuse and trauma too.
If I look at how this obsession appears to me, I can imagine a teenager who’s starting puberty and feeling those overwhelming, hormonal impulses we know as crushes.
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse
by Barbara Steffens, Ph.D, & Marsha Means, M.A.
Before you allow yourself to be labeled a co-addict, or even a codependent, by a well-meaning therapist, a 12-Step group or the sex addict in your life—read this book! To date, this is the best book available for partners of sex addicts and its message is critical for partners of sex addicts. We highly recommend this title as the first book you read. We recommend it also for clergy/counselors and anyone who is aware that sex addiction is affecting the life of a congregant or client. Currently it is available in book format only, no audio or ebook available at this writing.
An aside: if you set out reading about his addiction, his wounds, his traumas, the recovery process may well become just like the relationship prior to discovery—all about him. Do you think for a minute he is reading about the effects his actions have had upon you? Not even a prayer of a chance that is happening. After what you have been through, it is your turn. Demand that much. Read about yourself.