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How Porn Hurts Us
by Lili Bee
Have you ever struggled to convey how deeply porn use disturbs you without tripping over your words? Without stammering? What about when the points you want to make about it reflect very strong beliefs you hold, but the person you’re conversing with not only doesn’t agree, but they don’t even seem to care?
Anticipating just such trouble ahead, have you ever rehearsed your points beforehand so you can confront someone later, only to have your anger get the better of you and instead your husband (or partner) dismisses your concerns?
Q- Please describe a genuine apology/amends-making. His apologies seem feeble and he does not seem in the least bit sorry that he hurt me, he seems sorry that he got caught.
An important and exciting development for PoSAs everywhere!
I’m very excited to share a wonderful new find sent to Terre by Tania Rochelle. Tania has gone back to graduate school to receive her second masters (first one is in fine arts, this one in counseling). The world will be a better place with Tania in it offering her counseling services to the growing community affected by sex addiction.
In her studies and research, Tania came across a therapist in Beverly Hills, CA who specializes in sex addiction and sexology, Dr. Omar Minwalla. We’ll let you read just one of the many laudable documents on his site in it’s entirety but first we want to issue a huge gratitude to Dr. Minwalla from PoSAs everywhere! Read the rest of this entry »
Ask a Sex Addict/ Compulsive in Recovery (SAC)
Q- I’m trying to get my husband to see that he has a problem with pornography; he denies that. I can’t tell him that I’ve checked his computer and see that he’s on porn sites 4-5 times a week. By ‘spying’ on him I’ve painted myself in a corner. How would you suggest that I get through to him, without him just turning it around and calling me a ‘Snoop’?
MILFs and Happy Endings
Published July 19, 2011 BY Lili on Good Men Project
http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/milfs-and-happy-endings/
Is Raunch Culture invading our everyday language?
For those fortunate enough to plead ignorance to the meaning of the disrespectful MILF term, let me just say I am just plain envious. I’ve not been spared that good fortune since I have a relative who’s a raging sexual compulsive, and his idea of bonding with me is to share his latest sexual exploits with me. Since that’s a non-stop endeavor of his, I hear way too much, stop him though I try. He blames me for creating “distance” when I remind him there’s lots of other topics to talk about besides swinger vacation clubs, best strip clubs ever, and his by-now-ubiquitous “fave porn star of the day” category. Read the rest of this entry »
Yesterday I got a text from a female acquaintance, G, I’d met at a writer’s meeting. We’ve had coffee together before the meeting a few times during which I heard earfuls about how difficult it is putting up with her husband, who cannot seem to stay in recovery from alcoholism.
After a dozen years of her husband’s failed sobriety efforts, this woman feels exhausted in her efforts to get him into solid, long-term recovery and help the rest of his life not fall apart so he doesn’t lose his job, and therefore, their lifestyle. So, understandably this woman is at her wit’s end. Sound familiar? Read the rest of this entry »
